The Red Flag Radar

Compatibility vs. Chemistry — a checklist-style guide to telling "spark" (anxiety) apart from "alignment" (values), before it costs you a year.

That instant "I can't stop thinking about them" feeling and real danger run on some of the same wiring — which is exactly why chemistry can lie to you. The Red Flag Radar gives you a practical, non-judgmental system for separating the two.

What's inside (20 pages):

• What "spark" really is — and what it can't tell you
• What "alignment" really is — the quieter signal that predicts long-term success
• The anxiety-spark connection: how an anxious nervous system can masquerade as attraction
• Real checklists: core values, life logistics & goals, communication & conflict style
• Red flags disguised as chemistry (love bombing, whirlwind pace, jealousy read as passion, drama read as depth)
• Green flags disguised as boring (consistency, calm presence, predictability, follow-through)
• The 3-Date Radar Check-In — a repeatable system for weighing spark and alignment over your first few dates
• The "growing or anxious" self-check for when you're already in it
• Questions to ask a trusted friend for an outside read
• Your Personal Non-Negotiables worksheet
• Common traps: potential-based attraction, intermittent reinforcement, familiarity pull
• Bonus: quick-reference radar checklist

This is an educational, checklist-style tool — not a diagnostic instrument or a replacement for therapy. Instant digital download (PDF).